Self-Injury in the Summer

Summer is the season to show some skin. The images of bikini clad vixens and shirtless studs are impossible to avoid if you surf the web, watch a little television, or simply stand in line to buy your groceries. The idea of working towards and achieving the ideal...

Can NSSI Lead to Suicide?

When parents, teachers, or loved ones discover that someone they care about is engaging in some kind of self-harm, their natural response is one of fear. And usually it’s a specific fear: Does this mean s/he is going to commit suicide? Almost every family that we...

Sharp Objects

One of the first questions I often get when parents come into therapy terrified of their child’s self-harm is some version of this: What should I do with all the knives and other sharp objects in the house? Their first instinct, usually, is to remove everything from...

It’s Okay to Feel Shame

There’s a lot of bad publicity out there these days for one of nature’s most important emotions. “Don’t shame me!” is a frequent conversation-ender that people seem to be using more and more to get out of a sticky confrontation with a friend or family member. When we...

The Body Image Dilemma

“Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old...

Treat Your Body to Treat Your Brain

Even though a wealth of research shows how working out—even just doing mild physical activity for older people—has endless positive effects on our brain and mental state, I would argue that a large majority of doctors and therapists still don’t make an effort to use...

For Linda

A couple of months ago, we posted a piece on attention-seeking self-injury that seemed to inspire parents across the nation to email us with questions. One parent in particular struck us as the kind of parent we see a lot in treatment: concerned, caring, and genuinely...

Want to get fit? Eat more fat!

Three facts to consider: Fact 1. Obesity rates are rising at an astronomical pace. Fact 2. Heart Disease is the number one killer of both men and women in the US. Fact 3. Most of us are actively avoiding fat because we are told that it is the enemy. Hold on…Doesn’t...

How to find a good self-injury therapist

Around the country, there are many therapists and counselors who work with self-injury, including a significant number who claim it as a specialization. If you aren’t in the Los Angeles area (where we work), how can you find the a therapist who is right for you? Here...